Don't Take It Personally - Mondays With Maya

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Do you take things too personally? Do you always want to be right and get upset if you can't get your point across? You may be doing more harm to yourself than you realise.

Taking it Personally - Mondays With Maya

It's hard not to take things personally sometimes in this day and age but we have to remember we are only one person on a planet of 7 billion. Taking everything personally is just too much for our little shoulders to bear. Trying to be right all the time and to prove your point is not worth it sometimes. Think about why you are trying to prove a point and why it's so important for you to appear to be right. This question always makes me think:

"Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?"

Think about this for a while. And start to realise that taking things personally does you more harm than you may think. Taking things personally is basically giving away your power. You are allowing that thing or person that upset you to control you. If you decide that you'd rather be happy, than "right", then remember the golden rule: -

"Don't take everything personally."

Easier said than done, you may say. What can we do when we feel ourselves start to take things personally? Here's a few things to remember: -

1. Let some time go by before you react. Give yourself at least 10 minutes to relax before you say or do anything on the offending matter. If you can, wait at least 24 hours and if you are still upset, weigh up the pros and cons if you react. More often than not, you'll find that when all that time has gone by, it won't bother you anymore.

2. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. If someone said/did something that upset you, think (a) why they said/did it, (b) if you would have said/done the same thing if you were in their position, (c) if it's possible that what they said or did was misconstrued? A lot of times, silly misunderstandings can ruin even the best of relationships. 

3. View it as if you were outside of the bubble. Sometimes if you view a situation as a third person, it's easier to be logical about certain situations. For example, if you have two friends that have fallen out, it's easy for you to see both sides of the story, whereas if it's you in the bubble, it's hard to remain unbiased. If you view things from a third person's perspective, most of the time, you'll find that it's not even all that serious to begin with and definitely not worth your time, energy and stress.

After all, whatever got you down and upset might not even have been meant for you. Take it down a notch and think, "I don't have to be right!" Let it go and see what happens.

Try it and let me know how you get on.

Sending you lots of positive vibes,

Maya x

P.S. Don't forget to try out my 7 Minutes, 7 Days, 7 Weeks of Mindfulness and Yoga with Maya Fiennes programme and connect with me on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook where I'll regularly share free yoga and breathing tips and inspirations from around the world.

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